Amazing, how throughout life, the learning never stops, the changing. I feel like God shapes and molds us as we move thru life, strengthening this, knocking off rough edges there, opening our eyes to an ever-greater understanding, until we're fit for his service.
Even after all these years, in some things there are still so many rough edges.The result of the rough edges is hurt feelings when I pounce, as my brother so accurately put it, instead of being supportive and understanding, which is what the other needed. Is that the hardest lesson in life - to learn to at least pause before you speak, pause before you react, to think before sticking your foot in your mouth? Sure seems to be difficult for me. I'm glad God doesn't give up on us. I know if we had projects as difficult as I am, I'd sure be ready to give up in frustration. What is it the Bible says...in our weaknesses He is made strong? Ain't that the truth!
I've seen the difference, too, held my tongue when it would have been so easy to respond and "pounce". The feeling when I did was that, yes, this is the right way, the better way, I am showing this person love in the way I should. It's a matter of respect, and caring, giving them the floor to voice their thoughts and feelings, explain their side to me and help me understand them better. Yes, this is when growing really takes place, when we can discipline "the flesh" and love someone else. It sure opens the door to deepening a relationship, increasing the intimacy and trust.
I hope he doesn't give up on me. When I remarry, I truly want to be all I can for the woman I love.
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